I loved what you had shared with us something that I believe but never had written about it! as a cis woman with a CPTSD,I agree that " baggage" is an euphemism for a fucked up person and it's not only unfair, we didn't choose what happened to us, and we need to be better by our own means...but in the other hand there're narcissists and people that can't be loved, because they will destroy you for loving them...it's so ingrained the I-not-lovable-mode that they need to work on themselves first in order to be loved...