What that looks like in practical terms is this: Do you struggle with feelings of abandonment because of absent parents growing up? You’ll struggle with that in marriage and worry your spouse will do the same. Do you deal with feelings of worthlessness or have a hard time finding purpose? In marriage, if you put your self-worth on your spouse or look to them for purpose, you’ll always be let down. Do you notice pride or selfishness in your life? Those character defects will shine like a nuclear mushroom cloud in your home.
Thank you for this! I’m not cut for marriage and I’m better off accepting that than trying to fit in at any costs and books in a society with formulas of happiness, you know, being in ‘relationship+kids+dog/cat’.
Studies showed that lonely people have much more health problems etc, but what the studies don’t show or had even looked for is that maybe the most difficult thing of being single until you die is how society treats us, labelling, shaming.
Your article is very pertinent for those who think that not getting married is a problem and is good for that matter.