That's one side of the burden of having been brought up with toxic inapropriate parents, the other one you didn't mention it's the self-sabotage we do because our unconciousness it's fill up with bad life-parenting-loving-examples and it's our automatic pilot when our conciousness doesn't know what to do...here 2 books: Trapped in the Mirror and The Body Keeps the Score. thanks for sharing this, I'm happy for you feeling better : )