You nailed again with this article, thank you! I'm so proud of my independence because from my role model, I would have end up with other narcissit and having 4 children with him...so, yeah it's hard for me to realized that my independency is actually fear, not really trusting a man, which I normally choose very "carefully" so he will give me the red flags that I was lookng for in order to tell myself that I am right to be by myself, having an occasional one-night-stand here and than...